like your spouse as much as you love him

like your spouse as much as you love him

How To Deal With Depression

Lieve Boekholt

Sadness is often a part of each person's life. Whether you have lost a loved one, gone through the process of divorce, experienced a large change in your life, or for whatever other reason, it is normal to feel sad. Many people get the blues and are able to deal with them by themselves. However, if this sadness has become too hard to bear, you may be experiencing something more serious such as depression.

Warning Signs - Ask yourself these important questions. If you answer in the affirmative,then you more than likely have clinical depression.

  • Is my sadness interfering with work, sleep and my daily life?
  • Do I feel worthless?
  • Do I feel fatigued, even if I have not done great physical activity?
  • Has my weight changed dramatically?
  • Do I feel that there is no pleasure in my life?

Take Action - Remember that helping yourself through depression usually means that you'll take small steps that will gradually lead to larger ones.

  • Think about breaking larger tasks into smaller ones. For example, if your house has been neglected, take it a drawer or a closet at a time rather than trying to do too much in a short time.
  • Reactivate relationships, especially with trusted friends and family members who will simply listen to you without trying to solve your problems.
  • Exercise will be a very important part of your recovery. Remember those small steps. Even if you have to force yourself, start with a walk to the mailbox or ask a friend or a family member to walk with you in the neighborhood.

Seek Help - If you have come to the realization that you are not overcoming your depression by yourself, there are professionals who are trained to help you.

  • Consider talking to your priest, minister, rabbi or other ecclesiastic leader.
  • Maybe it's time to see your family doctor. Besides your regular physical, discuss the emotional problems you are experiencing.
  • It may be that both your family doctor or your ecclesiastic leader will refer you to a mental health therapist. 

Mental Health Therapy - If you have decided to go to a professional to get mental health therapy, here are some of the things you might expect.

  • At your first meeting, you will more than likely fill out papers that ask detailed questions regarding your physical and your emotional health. It is extremely important for you to be totally candid in answering all the questions. 
  • You may need to be hospitalized, (that will usually be determined at the first meeting,) especially if you are having suicidal thoughts. Otherwise, a schedule of further sessions will be set up. 
  • It may be determined that you will benefit from medication to go along with your counseling sessions. If a medication doesn't work for you, be sure to express that to your doctor, as another one might suit you better.

For more information, check out companies such as Joy Miller & Associates - Counseling & Wellness Center.


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About Me
like your spouse as much as you love him

I knew that I loved my husband, but I was having a very difficult time liking him most days. My husband acted much like an overgrown teenager expecting me to do everything for him. He couldn't be bothered to put his trash in the trash can, or put his dirty laundry in the hamper or even carry his dirty dishes to the sink so that I could wash them. After about 18 years of this behavior, I finally had to find someone to go to for help. We started seeing a counselor to try to find a way for me to like him again. It has helped some. My blog will show you a few ways that counseling can help you like your spouse as much as you love him or her.